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Emotional Mastery, the Dance Between Love and Anger

How well can you really manage your emotions? How do you tend to respond to situations?

A few years a go, concepts such as Emotional Intelligence (E.I) were not part of the business world, very few hired candidates based on their ability to handle emotions. Today, many companies will choose a weaker technical candidate with higher levels of emotional intelligence.

Emotional Mastery is NOT learned in a book or workshop. It is a life long evolving process. Learning how to manage your emotions is the path away from stress, fear, hate, anger towards happiness, love, peace and joy. At some level we all need to improve our mastery of ourselves, however, it simply does not happen by reading about it.

Is Anger Controlling You

shutterstock_smallI received the following via email today, and it was a reminder of this dance between our emotions of love and anger, it’s an unfortunate example of a lack of emotional mastery.

While a man was polishing his new car, his 6 yr old son picked up stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child’s hand and hit it many times; not realizing he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures.
When the child saw his father, with painful eyes he asked, ‘Dad when will my fingers grow back?’

The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times. Devastated by his own actions, sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches; the child had written:
The next day that man committed suicide.

How many times have we reacted to a situation, which we later regret?

Your Mental & Emotional Operating System

Our life experiences condition how we react to situations. It’s an unconscious behavior developed over your life time and it’s like a mental operating software (or virus) embedded in your mind.

Be aware of your thoughts, they become your words,
Be aware of your words; they become your actions,
Be aware of your actions; they become your habits,
Be aware of your habits they become your character,
Be aware of your character they become your personality,
Be aware of your personality it becomes your destiny. 

In the same email that was sent to me, there was a line that says:

“Anger and Love have no limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life…”
While I agree, we should choose the later, the reality is that it is easier said then done. It’s like someone saying, “Don’t worry” to you. They mean well, but the reality is that, it is not that easy to switch our emotions on and off, to not react the way we do. As much as we like to think we are in total control of our thoughts and emotions, we all do this with varying ability.

shutterstock_sssmallHowever, you can choose not to be a victim of your mental and emotional conditioning.

Emotional Mastery

Today there are tools such as PRISM Brain & Behavior Analysis that we use with our clients to help you better understand your emotional intelligence. These tools don’t fix us, but, doing the test and reviewing the results brings about greater awareness of who we really are.
Most people choose not to do inner work, to invest time and money in personal development. Be it practices like meditation or workshops. Taking responsibility of who you are is the 1st step.

In our program and event, ‘Personality Success Blueprint’, we share the 7 keys to unlock the secrets of your personality, how to assess your emotional intelligence, we also teach you processes and tools to let go of emotional baggage, overcome limiting beliefs, create a compelling guiding vision for life, and how to better set and achieve goals and objectives to keep life in balance while working towards being the best you can be.

Beejal Parmar
Speaker, Author, Personality Expert, Results Coach, Mastermind Facilitator
& Creator of ‘Personality Success Blueprint’ program and event:

Create a blueprint for success based on your unique personality…
PLUS Unleash your potential by overcoming emotional baggage and
overcoming limiting beliefs